This was written by my husband in response to the “23 Things You Should Do Instead of Getting Married at 23.”
The original post made me angry. I got married at 21, and I don’t regret it. She’s making a generalization that all 23 year olds are alike. We are not. I am 23 and I have been married for a little over a year now. This girl does not know me, nor does she know every other married or soon-to-be-married 23 year old. We are not the same.
The decision to get married was mine to make, and it definitely isn’t the best choice for everyone. But I am an educated, self-sufficient woman, and I can do what I want. I will travel if and when I want to, being married doesn’t change that. Being married means that I will always have someone to do those things with, if I so choose. Chris is not a ball and chain, and I am not one for him either. We are partners. We make decisions together.
Some of the things this girl said I should do before I turn 23 are definitely not for me. I have no intention of making out with someone I don’t know or hanging out naked in front of windows. HOWEVER, if I did want to do those things, I would do them. Instead I wanted to get married, and I did that instead. Some people are just ready to get married.
Others hang out naked in front of windows.
These are two similar responses from married 20-somethings: