The Truth About Marriage And Why I Love Mindy Kaling

If any of you are friends with me on Goodreads, you may know that I have been wanting to read Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by Mindy Kaling. Anyway, I finally got to read it! My handsome husband snagged me this book and I am so glad he did. I loved it and devoured it in less than 24 hours. It was funny (how can it not be?), and real, and made me feel good about me. Her outlooks on life manage to be both realistic and optimistic at the same time, and I freaking love it. How often do those two things come together?

A little background on me and Mindy:

1. I love her. I think if we met, we would be friends. I even tweeted about it once. I believe I actually said ‘best friends’ but, thinking back, that was probably a little presumptuous. I mean, she didn’t even tweet me back.

2. I think she is a genius. She has to be.

3. I love her sense of style, and I find myself thinking about ways I can replicate it and then realizing I wouldn’t have the faintest idea where I would buy half the stuff she wears.

4. I follow her on instagram and I refer to her posts in my daily life.

That pretty much sums it up.

In her book, Mindy talks about reading books a lot, being kind of a weird child, NOT serial dating in high school (or college), being chubby, and having opinions. And all I wanted to do was hug her the whole time.

The best part about reading this book was getting some validation for my views- other people think the same things I think. I’m not crazy. I know it might sound a little insecure when I say I got some validation, but let’s be serious- everyone needs a little validation now and then. I just watched an episode of Sabrina the Teenage Witch about it.

One of those things is marriage. I know you might be gasping to yourself since I am, indeed, married. BUT, it’s not what you think. Mindy (I feel like I am close enough to her to use her first name, now) talks about divorced people and unhappily married people….AND happily married people. In short, divorced people are mostly nice and even more often feel liberated, unhappily married people warn you against the institution and tell you how much work it is, and happily married people are cool. We are cool because we’re pals.

“My parents get along because they are pals. They’re not big on analyzing their relationship. What do I mean by pals? It mostly means they want to talk about the same stuff all the time.” – pg 185

She continues to stroke my ego by saying this:

“I don’t want to hear about the endless struggles to keep sex exciting or the work it takes to plan a date night. I want to hear that you guys watch every episode of The Bachelorette together in secret shame, or that one got the other hooked on Breaking Bad and if either watches it without the other, they’re dead meat. I want to see you guys high-five each other like teammates on a recreational softball team you both do for fun. I want to hear about it because I know it’s possible, and because I want it for myself.” -pg186

THANK YOU. I would definitely get mad at Chris if he watched one of our shows without me (he wouldn’t dare.) I do high-five my husband all the time (we high-fived during our wedding ceremony.) And marriage IS like a recreational softball team you join for fun. I joined marriage for fun, and because I love Chris. A lot of people look at me weird because I am young and married and educated and childless. I married him because I wanted to, not because I had to.

You get it, Mindy. (If you are reading this, you can read all about my awesome marriage by friending me on Facebook, following me on Twitter or Instagram, or following this blog.)


4 thoughts on “The Truth About Marriage And Why I Love Mindy Kaling

  1. Like almost anybody else,I know her from ‘The Office’,and was a little bit surprised when I learned that she wrote a book.Now after reading the excerpts here,I know that the book is not worthless.

    Also,for some reasons unknown,this post made me smile.It was a good one!

  2. Ughhh you make me want marriage so badlyyyyyy. I know, i know. I have to wait until I graduate nursing school and get a job and have money to have my little DIY wedding that I’ve been dreaming up for years. But beside all the marriage gobbledy gook I am happily committed…is that a thing? Well, we make dinner together, and smile and laugh the whole (little) time that he is home from work. Love your posts. Sounds like a good work.

    • Happily committed sounds like a thing to me! I got married when I was still in college, and obviously Chris is still in college. We just paid attention to our priorities. Although, planning a wedding in the middle of a semester is a little rough.

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